Like many women, I once believed I didn’t need a man and could handle everything on my own. Growing up in a single-parent household and attending an all-women’s college reinforced my “Miss Independent” identity. I wore it proudly, reinforced by songs that celebrated independence.
But now, as I near 40 and navigate motherhood, I’ve realized the “superwoman” ideal society pushes on us is not only unrealistic but harmful. We’re burning out, stuck in survival mode, and our mental and physical health is suffering. Autoimmune issues, hormonal imbalances, and mental health crises plague women because we’re trying to keep up with a male-centric world that doesn’t honour our natural rhythms.
I still believe in women’s empowerment, but doing it all alone?
That’s not the path I want anymore. This hyper-masculine approach is burning us out. We’re meant to flow with our feminine energy, which aligns with a 28-day cycle, not the 24-hour cycle we’ve been forced into.
We’re not listening to our bodies. We don’t rest because society views rest as weakness. We struggle to receive support because our nervous systems don’t feel safe enough to relax into our feminine energy.
So, when I say I need a man, I mean I need a healthy masculine presence—whether that’s a partner, a friend, or even myself—to hold space for my feminine energy to emerge. We thrive through co-regulation, by balancing energies within relationships.
This isn’t about strict gender roles but about an energetic balance. Yin and Yang.
Sometimes, your partner may need to embrace their feminine side, and you’ll step into a masculine role. It’s about finding harmony.
We weren’t meant to do this alone. We need our tribe, genuine sisterhood, and true support. That’s how we heal. That’s how we thrive.
More connection. More health. More love.
With love and gratitude,
Dayan